Artwork: Xaviera Lopez
Why is it so easy to fall in love with someone else, but so impossible to love yourself?
It’s so easy to forgive the people you love, you would accept their apologies and forgive them in a heartbeat. Even time after time when they do you wrong, you still welcome them back with open arms. You are willing to love and love and love because that’s what you do for the people you love.
But when it comes to yourself, the first thing when things go wrong, you start to doubt yourself. You start to question what is wrong with you. You point fingers at yourself for ruining everything you lay your hands on. You want to run away to avoid creating more damage.
You drown yourself into looping thoughts. Thoughts about the things that you could have done better, the things you should have said, the things you regret doing. And just like that, you are sucked into the vortex, the vortex of self-doubt and self-blame. You no longer feel yourself.
This must stop. We need to learn to love ourselves the way we love people; and a thousand times more. It’s the hardest thing to do in the world. It takes conscious effort and daily reminders. But we need to do it. Because at the end of the day, you need to be your own person. No one else can do it for you but you.